Couples Therapy

"Love is really worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, your risk is even greater."
- Erica Jong

We enter relationships without any manual to operate this complex task before us. Often it is a matter of trial and error and an increasing sense of failure. Couples therapy can finally provide that manual and give partners practical tools so that the relationship can bring a stronger friendship, romance and greater happiness. While couples come to therapy with a variety of issues, most frequently the desire is for a deeper level of connection and intimacy.

In working with couples I attempt to build a safe atmosphere where feelings can be expressed and differences can be explored in constructive ways. Together we examine patterns which create distance or block the love that initially brought them together. Both members of the relationship learn to listen deeply to their partner's needs, fears, hurts and frustrations, as well as to each other's efforts to connect. They learn to heal old wounds and to handle conflicts in more gentle, positive ways. Both parties begin to identify triggers that repeatedly lead to a downward spiral and to develop new, supportive ways of interacting.

Relationships are often tested, sometimes early on, sometimes after many years of being together. For example, a major test to the relationship may be an issue of broken trust. Couples therapy can be invaluable at this time. Where there is a deep commitment from both parties to heal these wounds, trust can be rebuilt. As couples navigate these difficult crises and get to the other side, they often find that the relationship is much stronger than ever before.

My work with couples has been most strongly influenced by John Guttmann, PhD and Dr. Susan Johnson. Both of these outstanding clinicians have conducted an extraordinary amount of research on how couples interact. Dr. Sue Johnson's approach, known as Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, has shown a far greater success rate in improving couple relationships than any previous therapeutic model.

 


Even if you are near separation or divorce, your relationship can dramatically change.

Please call me for more information:

413 841 1251 or 518 794 8285 or email me at vjshulof@yahoo.com
Please talk to me and ask me any questions you may have.